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Thursday, March 26, 2026

Patra McSharry Sevastiades, Co-Author of Grace Unbound part 2

March 9, 2026 press conference in Chicago.
This is part two of my Interview with Patra McSharry Sevastiades. 
In the second half of our conversation, co-author Patra Sevastiades reflects on the craft behind the book—how raw material became a compelling narrative, how structure and storytelling choices were made, and what it meant to shape another person’s deeply personal story with care, discipline, and trust.

 EN: I've collaborated with authors on two books. Each had important and fascinating stories but needed a lot of editing, which was my role. What was the process of your book project as co-author with Fr. Demetrius? 

Patra: What I brought to this project was a facility for writing and for editing.

Here’s the back story. My late husband, Fr. Philemon Sevastiades, had heard that

Fr. Demetri had met a man on death row, Andrew Kokoraleis, and had attempted to save his life. My late husband recommended that that Bishop Demetri write a book about the Orthodox Christian perspective on the death penalty and even developed a book outline. But he died in 2004 so that book never came to be.


Perhaps fifteen years later, the bishop asked a different priest to write a similar book, and the bishop asked me to edit it. I read it and I marked it up. I did not think it would appeal to a general audience. But what was gripping in the 300 pages of manuscript were the little stories that popped up. One, two, or three narrative paragraphs might show up in a given chapter. So I suggested a new approach: focus on the stories and allow narrative to drive the book. We pretty much wrote a completely new manuscript.

One thing we agreed to from the start: we wanted the book to appeal to the general reader, not someone steeped in church history or theology or even spiritual topics.

Second, we found a good process. His Grace talked about things—he is a natural storyteller with an excellent memory—and I took a stab at writing it down, for instance, a given scene or event that he described. I would build in many options (asking him to choose among 3 or 4 adjectives or verbs or to suggest a different one) and I would build in questions. How did that feel? Why did you do that? How did another person look/sound? This would open up a larger conversation. I would understand more, and that would be entrusted to the page as well. 


We would go over a section again and again until we got it right. I remember one time we spent 45 minutes—or maybe it was three hours!—talking about one verb! A lot of the book had to do with crisis points in the lives of either the bishop or the people to whom he was ministering, so we were very careful about details and language. We developed an outstanding process of dialogue and a trust between ourselves. Let me add that a question often brought up other stories or clarifications that were themselves quite interesting. In this way, the book bloomed in front of us.


Third, the story also involved a great deal of contextual research. My husband, Dean Casperson, suggested that we add background about HIV/AIDS, since a lot of people probably don’t know that story. He was right. I also needed information about the death penalty, in Illinois and in the United States. In the end, I took out subscriptions to newspaper archives to research events and people, and that research was then woven into the text.


“I was afraid the book was going to be a ‘church’ book,” admitted Politico journalist Shia Kapos when she recently interviewed Bishop Demetrios in Chicago. “But it wasn’t, it was written in a journalistic way.” When I heard her say that, I was relieved that our approach—combining personal narrative and research—had been deemed successful by a journalist.


Beyond the book itself, I did a great deal of research on how to write a great book proposal. I did research on how to write sales copy for the back of the book. I did research on how best to tell a story. I researched literary agents. I submitted 24 book proposals, all of which yielded a no or a non-response. I kept improving the book proposal each time before I sent it to a new agent. But the 25th book proposal, the one that had all the magic ingredients in just the right measure, was the one that landed us an agent. A month later, we had a publisher.


EN: A lot of editorial decisions go into the structure of a story like this. I believe I understand the motivation for beginning with the grisly details of the "Ripper Crew" murders. It is palpably gripping. But it also takes place years after the story of Bob, the man with AIDS. How was the interweaving of stories decided?


Patra: The overall arc of the book is about Andrew and the death penalty in Illinois because the story occurred across twelve years, and there was a great deal of storytelling about what happened in the state.

Once we made that decision, then we had to say, what do we do with everything else? The story about the AIDS pandemic had fewer details to address; the volume of information would fill less space. If you have two stories, and one is longer than the other, what do you do? Make it chronological? Or open with a dramatic scene that is out of chronological sequence? Sometimes the two timelines overlapped—what then?


And of course, you need drama right off the bat. One of the most dramatic things was the question of whether a man named Andrew was going to be executed or not, and we needed the reader to care about Andrew and about the priest visiting him, Fr. Demetri. We wanted to leave readers wondering, chapter by chapter, What’s going to happen?


The architecture of the book is something we wrestled with. A lot of my time was spent not on writing, but on thinking about the structure and moving things around, thinking, would this work, would that work? Might something else work? You will have to tell us if we succeeded!


We decided to include the story of Demetri, the teenage boy who becomes a priest (and later a bishop) despite his family’s disapproval. His calling to the priesthood was a reminder of the timeless, transcendent quality of some aspects of tradition that are not “logical” but are deeply reassuring. This also allowed the reader to see the bishop as a vulnerable, flawed, relatable person. Following Demetri’s personal spiritual journey and tying that journey into the chapters about HIV/AIDS would allow the book to feel balanced: Andrew and the death penalty in one chapter, HIV/AIDS and Demetri’s spiritual journey in the other, alternating, a 50/50 treatment.


Just when we thought we were done, our editor said, You need to add a final chapter; the action in the book ends in 2011, and you need to update the reader. This was a surprise, a demand that, in the end, pushed open another door, one that allowed readers to walk with the bishop through the most painful passage of his life, when everything fell apart. But what else could we do?


We wrote the new chapter. It was challenging, painful for the bishop to recount. It wasn't until we were almost finished with that chapter that I suddenly gasped the deeper point of the book. It showed up at two crucial moments early in the book, and again in the closing scene. The writing of the book had clarified the meaning of Demetri’s calling to the priesthood; even the painful passage of his life glowed with a meaningful brightness.


And then he wrote the pithy epilogue that he'd always dreamed of writing. 
Throughout, there was always a back and forth, an interplay of good ideas and shared effort. I know that the writing was improved by having two minds weighing in on it.


EN: A book project like this is a major time commitment. What prompted you to make that commitment, to tell someone else's story from start to finished publication?


Patra: I loved the idea that I would get to finish the project that my late husband had suggested. The book was quite different from what he originally proposed, but that connection was still very meaningful.


I had retired from the Duluth Library Foundation, and the challenge appealed to me. It was also paid work, so that helped!


In the end, it took about three years to write a compelling book proposal (with a gripping letter to an agent, three solid chapters, good sales copy, and a good argument about why it would sell), find an agent, find an editor, then finish writing the book.


Story is important, but the person behind the story is even more important. Grace Unbound was somebody else’s story, not mine, and it was important to respect that. It had to be told from the bishop’s perspective and how he experienced it; he would live with the consequences of the book in a very immediate sense. As for me, I wanted to be proud of the work that I was doing, and I wanted His Grace to feel that his story was accurately reflected. I heard a lot of personal stories. Some of them ended up in the book. Some of them didn't. But when you share that much about yourself, you get to know someone pretty well. We came to trust each other, and that was also meaningful. In talking to our agent and talking to our editor, we would always refer to one another to make sure that we were always speaking as one and backing each other up. We had a very strong sense of teamwork. This mutual respect was very special.


It was a great honor to work on this book with Bishop Demetrios.


To purchase Grace Unbound, you can ask your local bookstore to order it, or find it online here at Amazon.com.


Read a book review here: 

Grace Unbound: Memoir of an Orthodox Bishop Who Takes the Roads Not Taken



Illustration: Susan Jessico

Tuesday, February 3, 2026

Grace Unbound: Memoir of an Orthodox Bishop Who Takes the Roads Not Taken

"The first step of any great journey can be the riskiest one of all."

So begins the descriptor on Amazon.com for Grace Unbound: The Sacred Activism of an Orthodox Bishop (published May 2025). The book is a co-authored memoir/true story by Bishop Demetrios C. Kantzavelos (also referred to as Bishop Demetrios or Fr. Demetri) and Patra McSharry Sevastiades, with a foreword by Bill Kurtis. It chronicles Bishop Demetrios's personal journey as a Greek Orthodox priest in Chicago who unexpectedly becomes a prominent social activist, grounding his work in Christian faith, compassion, and the belief that every human life is sacred and made in the image of God.

The narrative centers on two pivotal encounters that transformed his ministry. The first took place in 1992, amid the height of the AIDS crisis. The newly ordained Fr. Demetri visited Bob, a dying man abandoned by his own parish priest due to fear and stigma. This act of compassion sparked his calling to AIDS ministry and the founding the Bishop’s Task Force on AIDS in the Greek Orthodox Diocese (later Metropolis) of Chicago. It became the first such Orthodox Christian initiative in the western hemisphere, offering resources, workshops, and pastoral care. Despite initial resistance and skepticism within his own church, the effort expanded nationally, addressing misinformation and providing support during a time of widespread fear.    


Seven years later, in 1999, Fr. Demetri was called to visit Andrew (Andrew Kokoraleis), a convicted gang member on death row for a gruesome murder (part of the "Ripper Crew" case). Andrew, who maintained his innocence and had a tragic background, became a focal point for the priest's advocacy. Grappling with moral complexities—justice for victims, empathy for the condemned, societal demands, and Christian mercy—Fr. Demetri visited him repeatedly, appealing to the governor, and ultimately joining broader efforts to halt Andrew's imminent execution. When clemency was denied and the execution proceeded, the experience propelled him into an 11-year campaign against the death penalty in Illinois.  


The book weaves these stories with reflections on faith, resilience, redemption, and the true cost of living out the Gospel. It argues that social activism—ministering to the sick, imprisoned, and marginalized—is not a departure from Orthodox tradition but a reclamation of it, confronting "social unrighteousness" while affirming life and human dignity. Themes include internal church struggles, interfaith collaboration, personal doubts, family moments, and mentorship from figures like Metropolitan Iakovos of Chicago. 

In Grace Unbound, Orthodox Christianity provided the spiritual foundation for Bishop Demetrios’s activism, following a call to live out Christ’s love through service and compassion, as highlighted in the book’s themes of sacred activism and empathy. The faith’s focus on theosis—becoming more like God through acts of love—underscores Demetrios’s efforts to minister to marginalized individuals like Bob (dying of AIDS) and Andrew (on death row for murder), showing how Orthodox principles can inspire social justice. Co-author Patra Sevastiades’s storytelling captures this blend of faith and action, making the book a powerful example of Orthodoxy’s relevance in addressing modern challenges.

Through Patra and her husband Dean Casperson, who live here in Duluth, I've  learned a few things about the Greek Orthodox Church that I'd not known before. For example, the Greek Orthodox Church broke off from Roman Catholicism in 1054 and made Constantinople its center, an event called The Great Schism. Unlike the Roman branch, which gives all authority to the Pope, the Eastern church rejected papal supremacy and governs through bishops, with the Patriarch of Constantinople as first among equals, not a ruler. There are several theological differences as well. In addition, Greek Orthodox priests can marry, whereas Catholic priests make a promise to remain celibate.

The Greek Orthodox emphasis on compassion, community, and spiritual depth is the primary driver for Demetrios in Grace Unbound. Its rich traditions and focus on personal transformation align with themes of empowerment and purpose, encouraging readers to see faith as a catalyst for meaningful change, much like Demetrios’s journey.

I'll close with these excerpts from reviews on Amazon.com.

Bishop Demetrios has written a compelling, deeply personal and highly engaging book that would appeal to ANY reader of non-fiction. Grace Unbound is written from a faith-based point of view but does not demand or assume belief from the reader. It's an easy read that draws you in quickly. It's grounded in lived experience – part memoir, part true crime, and part history and the result is inspiring, thoughtful, and surprisingly accessible to anyone interested in human stories, moral complexity and justice.

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What makes Grace Unbound particularly powerful is its balance of timeless truths and timely relevance. Whether reflecting on Scripture, personal stories, or the challenges of contemporary life, Bishop Demetrios draws the reader into a conversation that is both intimate and universal. His message is clear: no wound is too deep, no distance too great, and no soul too lost for the reach of God’s grace.

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The book blends theological reflection with personal anecdotes and practical examples, illustrating how Orthodox Christianity can inspire meaningful engagement with social issues and community needs. Bishop Demetrios advocates for a dynamic faith that goes beyond institutional boundaries, urging believers to embody Christ’s love through active service and social justice.

For more information or to purchase: Grace Unbound: The Sacred Activism of an Orthodox Bishop

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Reaching the Marginalized in Romania

"Jesus was all about the lost, the last and the least. This is good news for the poor, the blind and the needy... There is much in Scripture about God's concern for the marginalized, the orphan, the widow, the elderly, the broken. We cannot confess the centrality of the Word without embracing its major themes." ~Gary Walter

This past weekend had some interesting moments. The third was on Sunday morning. Our pastor was in Colorado with his family and instead of a stand in, we watched an excerpt from a longer message by the president of the Covenant Church International. The quote above is a passage from his message.
The second was the night before. We had visited the home of Silviu and Tirzah Pop, founders of an outreach to forgotten and marginalized children in the village of Poiana in Northeast Romania. Silviu is from this region and is painfully aware of the great need there.

The major issue is widespread AIDS. In the 1980's it was believed that blood transfusions to children would improve their health for minor and major surgeries. Untested, contaminated blood and the lack of hygienic practices helped transmit HIV to inordinate numbers of children there. Some were already orphans while others were abandoned in garbage containers, parks or apartment buildings.

Silviu and Tirzah have land and a small run-down building. Their desire is to create an orphanage where these and other outcast youth can be cared for and loved.

On Saturday evening we looked at photos from Silviu's recent visit there. We saw the need and we saw their dream. The special power of their outreach is that it originated in the hearts of two very ordinary people. There is no bureaucracy. Just a pair of young people responding to needs and striving to do something good.

The first "interesting moment" of the weekend, and the trigger event for this sequence of thoughts, was seeing again the film About Schmidt, which I wrote about here.

How is one transformed from self-preoccupation to selflessness? In a culture which preaches "me" and publishes bestsellers like Looking Out for Number One, where do the Mother Teresas come from? Silviu and Tirzah give evidence that it can really come from anywhere.

For more information, visit their website at http://www.romanianhopesprings.org/

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